[mSB] – 25

Your most potent medicine for recovery will be a simple human hug.

Basic contact with other people helps you get back to being you (and helps you become the version of you that you most desire to be).

Nothing heals and renews like the genuine physical connection that happens before, during and after a hug.

Go seek out and immerse yourself in the environments where people enjoy hugging each other and give away hugs.

The best thing about a hug is that when ever you give one you’ll get one too.

[mSB] – 24

You will manage.

You will recover and your life will once again be yours.

Care giving took a lot out of you and will continue to have some kind of an impact.

There were days (and nights) when you thought you would never get through it.

But you did and you will. Always.

No matter what you may deal with, or may have dealt with, life cannot be the same ever again anymore than yesterday can be today.

Life will continue on as change is the only constant.

Regardless of where you are, or may be, on the care provider path your capacity to heal and renew will grow.

[mSB] – 23

Your loss of health and wellness happened over a period of time not overnight.

You will need time to recover, heal and renew after being a care giver even if you took good care of yourself during your life in the crucible experience.

You are going to be in transition when care giving ends so give yourself the time to fully feel the impact.

Giving (and allowing) yourself the gift of time is essential.

[mSB] – 22

The sooner you start any part of a process for recovery the better off the possibility of recovery will be.

Waiting to care for yourself after your care giving journey ends may mean a longer time frame will be required to get back to being you.

Realizing you’re going to need recovery time during and after care giving is half the battle.

Realize too that some of what you may need to recover from may not appear until weeks, months or even years after your care giving experience ends.

You don’t know what you don’t know and not knowing is all part of the process. Your recovery is a process you go through and not a switch to be flipped.

Be kind to yourself regardless of where you find yourself at on the recovery path.

[mSB] – 21

You will always tend to seek out your own natural state of health and wholeness.

Your mind and body has an internal compass pointed at staying well.

This compass is always working whether you are aware of it working or not.

No matter what physical or mental shape you find yourself in, you will always have the choice to go toward health.

[mSB] – 20

Evidence you are being supported will show up when you look or listen for it.

We tend to see what we look for and hear what we listen for so expect support to show up and it will.

There is no other time when this makes more sense than when you provide care for a loved one.

Pay attention to the subtle details that make themselves known.

There is a comfort for you inside of each of those details.

[mSB] – 19

You will do the best you can when you can and there will be times you won’t.

Nothing can ever fully prepare you for the sometimes surreal circumstances you find yourself in while providing care.

One moment your experience all makes sense and in the next moment it does not.

You are human.

Being a care provider for an aging loved one is not some kind of test you pass or fail.

Do the best you can and give kindness to yourself when you do less than your best.

[mSB] – 18

You confront mortality more often as a care provider than in any other part of life.

Much of what you deal with as a care giver in the later stages is helping someone to face an end of their life here.

Help by giving gratitude and dignity reflected with beauty and reverence.

Within these mortal interactions you may also become acutely aware of your own mortality.

After all is said and done this is the only common journey we all will take.

That one trip this time around of being birthed from the here and now to what comes next.

[mSB] – 17

You are always able to question everything from a brand new perspective.

Care giving for an aging loved one will present challenges to any belief system you have.

Life happens in ways you may or may not be prepared for.

When anything shows up as different, go ahead and question what you face.

When nothing shows up as different, ask more questions.

Questions are your key.

[mSB] – 16

You are on your own spiritual journey where being a care provider plays a part.

What this means for you is what this means for you.

No one can tell you what to believe, or what part being a care provider plays, anymore than you can tell someone what they should believe, or what their role as care provider is all about.

You’ll gravitate toward what may be most familiar for you since the familiar has already prepared your path.

All that is required of you is to try and listen.

That’s all. Just to try.